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Gayatri Pariwar

Married life has a significant place in our Indian culture. It is the life of a householder that nurtures and enhances the society. The nation gets its future generation owing to this. Hence it is very important that married life is sweet and pleasant. However, it is seen that there is more of bitterness and tension in the relationship owing to incessant quarrels and differences of opinion. Husband and wife get disconnected from each other. The children become orphaned emotionally and the family disintegrates. There are small tips and habits which, when incorporated in daily life, can restore the sweetness of family life and may even lead to a blissful life of togetherness.

Each and every person leading a married life has his own individual life. One’s habits, interests, way of life and perspective towards life can be temporarily changed, but cannot be modified permanently. This is the main reason for married life to be smooth for some time and unrest crawling in after prolonged periods. This is the very reason why each of them should allocate sufficient time to each other so that they not only understand each other, analyze what has happened in the past, do a thorough self-introspection and lead a life of their own choice.

The zeal in married life is renewed by just setting aside requisite time for each other. The meaning of ‘requisite time’ is to set aside time apart from daily mundane chores and go for an outing. A person gets dissatisfied and bored when leading a monotonous life and hence craves for something new. That is why in Indian culture, there is a tradition of the girl visiting her parents’ place. After marriage the girl mostly lives in her in-laws’ place, and hence going to her parents’ place breaks the monotony and leads to freshness in life.

Being honest in marriage is very important. This is the foundation for faith in the relationship. Honesty in talking, honesty in discharging ones responsibilities, honesty in fulfilling promises and honesty in all interactions is the key to strengthening the relationship and enhancing the personality of both husband and wife. For the couple to understand each other well, it is important that they are able to leave their inhibitions and fears and speak out their minds to each other. They should discuss freely; and even when they are upset with one another, it should be sorted out as soon as possible. There are bound to be differences of opinion, but this should never lead to disruption of harmony in mind.

There is one habit that is noticed largely in people. They seem to have a host of complaints against all things in the world. This is primarily because of a facet in their personality which makes them focus on the negative aspects of others rather than looking at the positive ones. If we are prone to this habit, then we should ensure that this is kept under check so that our personality is not perceived as dissatisfied and irritable. Continuously complaining about various things in life leads us away from happiness and life becomes a bundle of complaints where there is no space left for happiness. Hence it is important that we refrain from complaining and take appropriate action to solve things that irritate us.

It is often seen that couples enter into arguments with respect to issues related to their children. Psychologists have classified such people as mentally immature. Children have no idea about what issues can trigger fights and arguments and rupture family peace. So, parents should definitely listen to what the children have to say and look at those issues from the perspective of the children. However, the issues should be solved in a mature way. One should never strain relationships based on what children said.

A pessimistic outlook towards life can potentially destroy even the happiest of lives; while at the same time an optimistic outlook can mend strained relationships. So, it is recommended to always have an optimistic attitude in married life. Even during times when pessimism creeps into life unknowingly, one should recognize that and get life back on the track of optimism, because optimistic outlook is the nourishment of married life. Pessimistic thinking is like a termite that takes away the joys of marriage and renders it hollow and eventually destroys it.

Life is always a mix of favorable and unfavorable circumstances. One should never shy away from thoroughly savoring the favorable moments. At the same time, they should never lose their calm and courage during challenging times. Wife and husband should together tide over the difficulties that come in life. They should never wait for a big milestone to celebrate. In fact, even the small successes and achievements should be taken as opportunities to enjoy and celebrate.

Faith is the foundation of married life. If this foundation cracks, it becomes difficult to keep up the relationship. Hence, we should never resort to any action that can disturb this foundation. The love that exists between the couple can be further strengthened with faith. Even when both of them do not think alike, faith can serve as a means for a strong bond between them. Lack of faith does not affect just the two of them but also the entire family and leads to its disintegration.

If you want to enhance and improve the quality of your married life, stop finding faults of each other and focus on co-operating and helping each other. Refrain from having too much expectation from each other. Forgive each other. Always be tolerant and look at the brighter side of life. These are small things which when adhered to, go a long way in transforming married life into blissful togetherness.